Every once in a while the Queen and I get to talking about things outside the shelling and beach world and I wonder if I should blog about it. After all, the Queen and I are more than just shellers. We’re people too. The Queen presented some things to me that she had been praying about and it hit home. The topic? Being a humble person.
So how do you write a blog post about being humble without being not very humble? On a shelling and travel blog, no less?
I don’t know, but I’m going to try. I do know that being humble is a very challenging and difficult task, especially for a guy like me. I like to talk and share and contribute.
I’ve always wanted to succeed at everything I do. I fail often. I set the bar high. Rarely do I jump over the bar. I’m a musician and I love my craft. When something good happens with my music, I like to tell people. In my heart and mind, I know I’m not telling people so they can pat me on the back. But I realize that deep down inside, I’m unconsciously seeking validation. It’s a weakness. Humble people don’t seek validation. I realize that my talent is a gift. Not an ability.
That’s just one example.
The Queen showed me a picture that laid out Mother Teresa’s Ways to Be Humble. I read them and I immediately felt a pit in my stomach.
After having that deep discussion with the Queen, I see that I’m not a humble person. After reading a list of things humble people do, I realized that I do too few of them. It was like a slap across the face. My own slap, of course, using my own hand across my own face.
I took it to bed with me. I dreamed about it. I had a hard time sleeping because I was beating myself up. I realized that I needed to be more selfless. I need to let other people get the last word. I need to give in more. I need to listen more than talk. I need to overlook things. I need to be more pliable in discussions that don’t follow my lines of thinking. I need to be less significant.
In short, I need to be less Tobias/Shell King and more Most High. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak, and it’s clear that mine’s really weak .
When we shell or travel, we take pictures. We love to share our experiences with everyone. We’ve mentioned it here before, but I’ll mention it again – We enjoy life and living it. We enjoy taking trips and having fun and want to show on this blog that you can do the same things we have been blessed to be able to do, if you have the desire to do so.
Wanna take a trip? Do it! Wanna eat meat on a stick at a festival? Hey, you can do that too.
Pre-dawn shelling? Hey, let’s go! Unfortunately, sometimes it may come across (unintentionally, of course) as a “Ha ha! Look what weeeee’re doing that yoooooou’re not!”
God forbid that ever happen. If it ever does, we’ll shut this blog down.
But it’s hard to blog about your experiences without it coming across as in a way, bragging. But I assure you, we are not doing that.
We want to be humble people. Selfless people. Pliable people. Our hearts are not built to insult, hurt, wound or lessen anyone. Sometimes, we just love to share what we do. Our inspirational posts are not posted to put anyone down and in turn, build ourselves up as something we are not. We are human beings and we struggle with things just like everyone else does. We just like to show how we have been able to overcome and instead of sorrow, add joy to our lives – and show that you can do the same.
We want to continue doing that….and we want to do it with more humility.